But neediness is not gender-specific – guys make the mistake of being “needy” too!
So I want you to know that I am putting this out there to help and inspire everyone to have more dating success, to point fingers. ” and pretty much any sentence that begins with ‘why didn’t you,’ it’s like nails on a chalkboard.
I think its fine to say that if you want a relationship you need to prioritize having a relationship, but you also have to be able to communicate what your needs are if you want a relationship. So, while he might not “be single for more than a week,”(by the way the sheer arrogance of that statement is enough to make me want to vomit) he may never have a successful relationship either.
like they’re entitled to them and their partner is cruelly withholding it.
Put simply, a needy person doesn’t feel good inside and then saddles the other person with the responsibility to make them feel better… whoops, “my battery died, sorry I didn’t call you back last night.” Nobody’s perfect. When you boil it all down, neediness is not some set of behaviors. When a person takes on the belief that another person is responsible for their happiness, their sense of well-being and their sense of self-esteem, then it’s guaranteed that they’re going to act needy as a result of that mindset.
I’m not looking for advice, but I just wanted to say that (as a man) you give solid advice to women.
A good female friend of mine found her fiancé as a result of reading your advice. I’m OK with not being her #1, but between her many (and growing) friends, hobbies, and endeavors, I find it increasingly difficult to spend an acceptable amount of time with her.
It’s all just enough to push a good, progressive guy like me towards a more traditional woman, even if she’s not as degreed or professionally successful. It’s rare when I print anything that I didn’t write myself, but this is a valuable anecdote that is more powerful than anything I could have made up myself.