They are at a loss when it happens, but still feel attached to their history, friends, children, financial situation, mutual families, and a deeper caring.
After a time apart, they realize that they want to make the relationship work and are highly motivated to make that happen.
Long-term commitments are filled with attachments to meaningful experiences, people, material goods, and history that may go beyond the loss of personal intimacy.
These attachments can bring people back together after a separation in ways that new relationships are less likely to do. If one or both partners in a relationship have drifted too far apart to repair the loss, that separated man may be soured against getting involved long-term again or authentically seeking a new long-term relationship.
In the midst of a separation, especially if many other people want that relationship to keep going, he may be overwhelmed with indecision and unable to see clearly what is best.
Prior Infidelities Men who have had relationships with other women throughout their committed relationship have either had partners who have regularly left and returned, or have been successful in keeping them clandestine.
A floppy relationship triangle exists when the man in question is at the apex of that triangle and the two women are represented by the other two points.