The purpose of dating is to get to know someone as fully as possible before tying the knot—ultimately with the goal of having a successful marriage that lasts.But what exactly is transpiring in this time that either confirms or disproves compatibility? Especially as our notions of dating practices change (thanks, Tinder), and we consistently hear about the supposed 50 percent divorce rate, I think we all wonder if there's some definitive rule book we be following.
In a Penn State University study called the PAIR Project, Professor Ted L.
Huston followed 168 newlywed couples over fourteen years and charted each couple's relationship satisfaction throughout.
Nearly half of all users, or 48 percent, reported that the number of people someone has slept with isn’t a big deal. “Don’t concentrate too much on data and what’s on paper,” she said.
Straight women were the most conservative on that front; 63 percent thought there was a number of sex partners that was too many. “Someone can be perfect with what is on paper, but there is no chemistry.” RELATED: Sex in space: Neil de Grasse Tyson explains everything you need to know She said people should go on at least one date per week if they want to meet someone.
I did some digging and reached out to relationship therapists and psychologists to get their thoughts.