They say that there is little support for them in obedience to their faith in their received teaching.
When emotions get involved, we have to be on guard that we don’t get carried away and lose sight of what matters to God. However, in her book True Love Dates, Debra Fileta suggests organizing your list into Red traits that you won’t settled for, Yellow traits that put you on your guard, and Green traits that you want in your partner.
The idea is that you never date anyone with Red traits, no matter how many Green traits they seem to have. As soon as I found out for certain that Joe was an atheist, I told him I couldn’t see myself in a long-term romantic relationship with someone who did not share my faith.
I have given a few close friends permission to hold me accountable on this and to give me a very hard time if they see me slip.''Have met some lovely caring men along the way but they did not share my faith and conversely some Christian men who shared my faith but who I did not love.
If you have integrity and remain faithful to yourself/God you are left waiting, lonely and completely unfulfilled as a woman, if not a Christian.''Right now, I am looking to marry a Christian.
This ensures you won’t settle for someone who doesn’t have a relationship with Jesus just because you’re attracted to their other qualities. If you do get to the point where an unbeliever is asking you out, that’s when you need to be candid about how your faith affects the kind of relationship you want. Never feel guilty for having standards and refusing to compromise your faith.